When you are married, it’s important to show up every day and say that you are still 100% committed to your partner and your relationship.
There are certain things that you can do to show your spouse that you love them very much, and will do whatever you can to make it work.
Read on for the best love tips for a happy marriage!
1) Be the Best Version of Yourself
That may sound a little odd at first because we are talking about a relationship involving 2 people – but this is a really important aspect of it.
Work on yourself – work on being happy, keeping fit and exercising, being open and kind to others.
If you are working on making yourself a better person, you will feel better and your spouse will appreciate this too.
2) Spend Quality Time Together
Life is so busy these days! When you factor in work, kids, the million things that we have going on, sometimes you’re like passing ships in the night.
It’s easier than you may think to not spend any quality time together, but if you can try and sit down together everyday – even if it’s only for a little bit – this will help keep you close.
3) Go Out on Dates
Dating shouldn’t be only for the beginning of your relationship. Keeping date nights alive with your partner will help to keep the spark alive and you can have a great time together!
Stepping out of your normal routine not just on your anniversary and doing something a bit different for just the 2 of you will be fun and healthy for your relationship.
4) Take Time to do Things for Yourself
Talking about healthy relationships – taking time for yourself is something that will help to keep you happy and sane.
When we are constantly on the hamster wheel of work, kids, food, sleep etc – it can get pretty exhausting.
When you feel like you never have a break this is when things can start to breakdown, so make sure that you each have time to do things for yourself, when you don’t have to be an ‘employee’, ‘wife’ or ‘mom’.
5) Discuss Your Life Goals
Don’t let life just sweep you along – make plans for your life together that you can work towards as a team.
It is incredibly important to make sure that you are both on the same page when it comes to the ideas that you have for the future.
You can talk about things like what career you want to have, do you want kids, where do you want to live, when do you want to retire etc – as you can see, these are big life decisions that need to be agreed and work towards together.
Don’t fight about money – make sure that you want to use the money that the both of you earn for the same goals – it will help things run smoothly.
6) Remain Calm in Arguments
As hard as this may sound, this is truly important if you want to remain happy in your relationship.
Of course, everyone is different and the way that we react is different, but I’m pretty sure that most people don’t want to be shouted at and called offensive names.
If you are angry, you are of course allowed to be angry. The best thing to do though, is to talk to your spouse and let them know why you are feeling that way.
Losing your head in an argument isn’t good for either of you – being able to speak to each other in a calm and reasonable way when you’re angry will help to keep the feeling of love strong.
7) Tell Them That You Love Them Often
As humans, we want to know that we are loved. We want to know that we are appreciated and that our partner thinks that we are the most amazing person ever.
Let your partner know that you want to feel this way, and let them know that you love them and appreciate them too – you can’t overdo this!
8) Show Them That You Care
Showing your partner that you care for them can be done in so many different ways – the more the better!
You could show them that you care by telling them that, you could show them that you care about them by listening to them tell you about their day and talk through any problems they are having.
9) Do Small Romantic Gestures
We all love a bit of romance! You can show your spouse that you love them by doing small romantic gestures – it doesn’t need to be over the top and elaborate – it can be small and sweet.
Things that always go down well are massages, foot rubs, bringing home their favorite snack that you saw in the grocery store, picking up some flowers on the way home. Cute!
10) Let Them Know That They are Number 1
When your spouse feels like you are putting other people before them, they are probably going to get a bit upset.
This doesn’t mean ignoring your kids or anything like that! But other people – other family members, friends etc.
Make sure that you let them know that they are the most important person to you and you will always ask their opinion and check in with them before making decisions that affect them.
11) Be Honest and Open
You need to tell your partner the honest truth about things and not hide things behind their back.
Talking from experience, it is a horrible feeling to feel that your partner has hidden things from you or lied to you.
Even if it’s only a small thing that they were not honest about, it’s usually the fact that they weren’t honest that’s more upsetting than what they weren’t honest about.
12) Boost the Love Hormone Oxytocin
Oxytocin is known as the ‘cuddle hormone’ or ‘love hormone’. You can boost this by doing things such as cuddling up and watching a movie together.
Make sure that you make time to connect with your partner physically as well as emotionally – they are both equally as important.
13) Don’t Take Each Other for Granted
When we are super busy, it can be easy to overlook the fact that your partner is crazy busy too and doing so much for you and your family.
It should never be a competition of who is doing the most, but letting your partner know that you appreciate everything that they do and you are lucky to have them.
14) Don’t Bad Mouth them to Other People
As tempting as it is to vent about all of your frustrations about your partner to other people, be careful about what you are saying and who you are saying it to.
The things that you say about them will change the way that other people perceive them, and this isn’t fair.
You can of course chat to the people closest to you about your feelings and things that are happening, but make sure that you are respectful about your partner and what they would be happy with you talking about.
15) Support Them and Encourage Them
Does your spouse have hopes and dreams for the future? A lot of the time we all have dreams and goals, but we may feel a bit apprehensive about starting.
The best thing that you can do for your partner is to show them that you will support them no matter what, and you want them to follow their dreams.
No-one likes to feel as though they aren’t allowed to do what they want to do, so showing them that they can do it no matter what, will keep your relationship happy.
Let them know that you think they are amazing and capable. They can do whatever they want to do if they are with you.